The Gift of Silence

What parent never heard a child say, “I’m bored!”? 

One September, as classes were resuming, one of my students was describing his summer as a shuttle from swimming camp to golf camp, to the next camp.  He said, “the only problem was that I had no time to be bored.”  Probing, I learned that he meant he had no time to simply be, to think his own thoughts. Continue reading

40 developmental assets

We have no guarantees when raising children, but we have some excellent guidelines.

Everyone should know about the 40 developmental assets.  People who study early childhood development have identified forty practices or circumstances that must be present in order for a child to grow up confident and happy.  Many are predictable:  a supportive, caring environment, healthy adult models.  But they also include items such as:  “young person spends 3 or more hours/week in lessons or practice in music, theatre, or other arts.”  And, “the young child spends time in activities that nurture spiritual development.”  In other words, it’s not just a Sunday school class or a piano lesson.  Arts and the spirit are basic to healthy development.

Where to learn more

To know more about the research on these assets, visit  Those who have already raised children will satisfy yourselves that you have done well by them.  Those currently raising children can evaluate your practices.  And if you’re in the pre-family stage, you can plan accordingly.


Learning from children

Children in Khorixas, Namibia Deutsch: Kinder ...

Children in Khorixas, Namibia Deutsch: Kinder in Khorixas, Namibia Magyar: Gyerekek Khorixas, Namibia-ban (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Children can teach us about life, for they are aware of things that we adults consider unworthy of notice.  Valuing their perceptions yields rich rewards for our own growth and theirs.  I share here some observations. Continue reading

Books I recommend

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Your Brain on Childhood (Gabrielle Principe)
All Together Singing in the Kitchen(Nerissa Nields)

Lord of the Flies (William Golding)


Music from the Trenches, or everything you need to know to ensure a rich musical life for your children  (Mary Jane Wilkie)